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Disability Narratives

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Video clip: Maria is happy for people to offer to help her (even when she does not need it), as long as they do not feel sorry for her.

That's an interesting thing you raise, people asking can they help, and you not always needing that help. You're quite happy to be asked? Would you rather be asked than not asked, I suppose is the question?

I'd rather they asked, because at least somebody's talking to you. Yes. I don't like being ignored. If I don't have the dog - Well, of course, people are not going to come and talk to you, of course. That's obvious. But it's nice just to - to say "Oh, he's very handsome." And one thing that I say, even to my husband, "Yes, he's the only handsome guy I've got in my life, so." [Laughing] So that's a good way of laughing, and not making feel like they have - because they asked, they have to help. No, it's relaxing, it's okay, I'll do it. And then sometimes they sit with me because they want to carry on asking questions, which I don't mind at all. I'd rather they know. Because I'm not sure if I'm helping somebody else, because they know they can pass the information on. And somebody else can get help with Access to Work, or the guide dogs, or just being positive and not feeling sorry for themselves. That's the bit that I don't like, if people feel sorry for me, and 'oh, poor you'. No, no, no, no. Poor me, no. I can do the same things as you do. In a different way, but I can do the same things.

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